This was my easy-going Sunday look. The top is from Express. The ankle jeans are from Chico’s last year. The bag is a couple of years old from Finley House Couture in Blowing Rock. The shoes were by Vince Camuto about five years ago. The sunglasses are by Dolce & Gabbana. Makeup and skincare by Beautycounter.
Today’s post is not the usual travel or wardrobe scoop, so grab your readers and a cup of tea.
Neither my sister nor I have children, which means there is no one to pass along all the hard-learned lessons of my life, so I blog. I want to save you fifty years of research, trial, and errors (lots of them!) as well as thousands of wasted dollars by sharing some of the most important things I have learned.
Because it is so important, I have often shared posts about what I eat and why to inspire others to seek a healthier way of eating.
First: Only eat regular meals at appointed times. Do not graze or snack. Sit down and reward yourself with a meal of highly nutritious, mostly plant-based foods. Include seeds, nuts, grains, fruits, or vegetables in every meal so that you give your body what it needs. If seeds are a problem for you, try grinding them in a coffee grinder, which you use only for that purpose. You can sprinkle them on oatmeal, salads, and vegetables. (Always consult with your physician before embarking upon any significant changes to your diet.)
Second: You may be much more thirsty than hungry. Drink lots of filtered water from a glass all day long. (You would be wise to avoid plastic and microwave ovens.)
Third: Avoid fast foods or those that come from a factory. They are full of preservatives and chemicals, which your body stores as fat, and after an hour, it sends you another signal that you are hungry. You can eat all day and still be starving. It will take about three weeks to break your addiction to sugar, fat, and salt. These elements are in almost every manufactured food in massive quantities. When you think about it, that’s a great business model: create foods that people become highly addicted to and that they can never get enough of. Cha-ching!
Go for a walk, read a book, write a letter, clean your house, watch an old movie, plan your new core basics wardrobe, do anything other than eat to keep your mind off the addiction. In about three weeks, you will stop craving the toxins, and in about six to eight months, you will be free of lots of excess weight and your addiction. Do not think of this way of eating as a diet. You are resetting your body to eat what is most healthful and natural instead of toxic manufactured foods that are not doing your body any favors at all.
After struggling with thirty or more excess pounds for my entire adult life, I have maintained a healthy weight for the past few years. I have not even had a cold for the whole time. My lab results are perfect each time I go for a yearly physical, and I no longer require any medications. That was most certainly not the case before I corrected my poor eating habits. When we eat nutritious foods, our bodies develop a fantastic ability to heal and fight off illness.
Does it give you pleasure each time you look at it, wear it or use it? If not, don’t buy it, don’t keep it. I had a dear friend whom I loved like a sister. When she passed away, her sisters and I cleaned out her home. There were countless things still in the bag with the tags attached. Since we were the best of friends for many years, I knew that she bought something every day, but even I had no idea to what extent. She would get dressed up on her day off and go shopping instead of preparing meals, cleaning her house, or learning something new. She had a full-on addiction to shopping.
You will not find lists of must-have items in my blog posts. When I show you something new, it is because I have determined a need for that item, planned the purchase, and know that it will fit in with what I already own. You may see me wearing new things that I did not buy, but I will always tell you what a gift was. I have many friends in the fashion industry who send me gifts occasionally.
My wardrobe is like a well-choreographed dance. Each performer must support the other players so that the dance as a whole is a highly functioning performance that flows smoothly from one season to another. (This is in addition to being like a river. Things flow in; things flow out. If it does not perform well or serve me effortlessly, out, it goes.) This practice of careful editing extends throughout my home. Being surrounded by clutter and unnecessary items makes me feel stress and the need to endlessly clean.
Using your inside voice is always more elegant and ladylike, whether you are dining with friends or speaking to someone in another part of your house. That is not the inside voice I want to talk with you about today. Hopefully, you have mastered that one already.
How do you speak to yourself? Are you gentle, kind, supportive, and uplifting with your internal dialog? When you catch a glimpse of yourself as you pass a mirror, do you say, “That top looks so good on you,” or are your words much less kind? When you do something clumsy, does the voice in your head say something to make you feel even worse? Be your own best friend. Be kind to yourself. Use only positive words and thoughts to elevate the way you think of yourself. Happiness is an inside job. There are very few things in this life that we have total control over. What you eat, how you conduct and carry yourself, and how you present yourself to the world are all things we can control. You can be the gracious ruler of you. Be the queen of the day, every day!
I wish you a long and healthy life, at peace with your body and your daily life.