Building A Wardrobe

Recent comments from thoughtful readers inspired me to put together this post. “You always have just the right outfit and accessories. How much time do you spend shopping (online, I expect), on average, per week? And do you have a budget?” We also recently discussed the color plum or burgundy in the comments section, so I’ll share more tips today.

While the perception might be that I have a vast wardrobe with endless accessories, the truth is quite different. I have the smallest wardrobe I’ve had in over twenty years, but it provides more outfit options. In addition, I have a small palette of mostly solid colors, which combine well with each other and flatter my cool complexion. That results in almost unlimited possibilities when I use accessories to dress a look up or down.

My buildable lip color in Plum: True Berry is here. I’ve been using Beautycounter since 2017. My skincare routine is here.

The color plum has a cool blue undertone, whereas burgundy or Bordeaux has a warm brown undertone which is more flattering for warm skin tones. If you look best in silver jewelry, you likely have a cool complexion.

Each fall season, I look for a few basics in plum but rarely find pieces that are right for me. Thankfully this year, I discovered and added a few royal plum items from L.L.Bean, where the v-neck top in several other colors is here.

Cool Royal Plum and warm Bordeaux color comparison.
The Pima cotton shell is here.

The shell is perfect to layer under a denim jacket or navy cardigan. The open cardigan below goes with all my pants and all of my tanks.

The Pima cotton open cardigan is here.

I rarely shop for new items, and it is always for something becoming worn or missing from my wardrobe. Avoiding sales, random scrolling for what’s new, and skipping trendy items have saved me lots of money over the past few years. Instead, I look for the best quality I can afford from sites such as Talbots, Dillard’s, Nordstrom, L.L.Bean, Land’s End, Banana Republic, and sometimes White House Black Market.

The white jeans are still available here, but mine are two years old. The shoes and bag are at least three years old. As you can see, the new items work well with my old favorites.

The plum color helps me look well rested even though I’ve spent the last week sitting by my father’s hospital bed in ICU. I am the only person in my family that has recovered from the Omicron variant enough to care for him. So you will understand why if you don’t see a new post from me soon. Thank you for being part of this amazing community of more than 22,000. Your comments and support mean so very much to me.

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289 Comments
  1. Oh Susan! I just knew something was wrong. Went through the same thing a couple of years ago. My heart is with you. Changes come and they are sometimes so very hard to endure. Wishing you strength and peace.

  2. So sorry to hear that your Father is unwell. I wish him well. On a lighter nite I love the plum colour on you. Thank you for sharing

  3. Oh Susan I’m sorry your Father is not well. I’m sending good thoughts and best wishes for him and all of your family. I hope he recovers soon.

  4. Susan, I love your posts. They are so informative, helpful, and positive. I am so sorry to learn your Dad is in the hospital. I will pray for him and your family.

  5. Best wishes to you, your father, and the rest of your loved ones during this difficult time. Your father is very fortunate that you are able to be by his side during his hospital stay. Thank you for keeping us posted . You have been a great inspiration to me and so many others!

  6. God bless you & yours. You and your father will be in my prayers.
    And you’ve had Covid twice now? I’m sorry to hear that, but it sounds like it’s a blessing in disguise, so that you can be with your father.

    1. I had the Omicron variant of Covid a few weeks ago. It wasn’t anything close to being as bad as the first COVID episode. I am fully vaccinated and boosted, which may have helped lessen the severity.

  7. Could I get your opinion, or your reader’s opinions (given your current family circumstance) on the color Shiraz that Talbots is selling this season? I can’t figure out whether it’s a warm or cool color…I really need the cool colors to look my best!
    TIA!

  8. I’m so sorry about your father. Seeing healthy aged parents become ill is one of the hardest parts of growing older.

  9. My prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. So very sorry to hear about your father. Please take care of yourself.

  10. Sending prayers for your father to have a complete and speedy recovery. Prayers and blessing to you as you care for him.

  11. Susan, you do look amazing and beautiful in those colors!
    I am so sorry to hear about your dad. I didn’t know you got sick again. I wish you good health to be with him.
    Love and prayers for your family.

  12. As always your comments are so helpful. Being a “cool” person I will look for the color plum in clothing for something different. My hair is about the same shade of gray as your hair also :). I sincerely hope your Father feels better soon. So many people have been affected by this terrible virus. Saying my prayers for him. Take care.

  13. I am so sorry to hear about your father; indeed your family. My family finally got the virus last week-not my household thank goodness. Hoping for the best outcome for your father.

  14. What sad news! I’m so sorry! Prayers to you and your family as you weather the Covid storm. It is an exhausting time. Sending the best vibes I can muster. Thank you for lightening things up with the discussion on plum and burgundy. I love plum!

  15. I’m nursing my 91 yr old dad through the virus as well and working full time. Hang in there! I have never been able to tell warm and cool skin tones. Any suggestions?

  16. Susan…. sending lots of positive thoughts to your Dad for a speedy recovery. I’ve been in your shoes and learned the hard way unfortunately…. if the caregiver doesn’t take care of herself, it’s bad. So always always, drink your water, get a walk in… even if it’s just back and forth in the hospital hallway, make sure to eat! And the nurses are your biggest advocate….they are there for you as well as your Dad.

  17. I remember well your first bout with Covid and subsequent pneumonia. I was so concerned, but glad you had such a great doctor. I am so sad to hear about this recent omicron infection and how it is affecting your family. How is Mr. Mickey? I hope for the very best for all of you.

  18. I’m so sorry that your father is ill. Praying for his quick recovery, and for strength for you and your mother.

  19. Thank you for posting during this difficult time Susan. My thoughts are with you and your father. I’m so glad you can be with him now.
    This beautiful shade of plum is on my permanent wishlist, but I have trouble finding pieces. I’ll be heading over to llbean next. Take care.

  20. Hope your father recovers soon. Your complexion glows in the plum top. Lovely. Take care of yourself and get enough rest. I am going to order the top.

  21. I am sorry to hear about your father being so I’ll, I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I really enjoy this post today because I’ve been struggling with the recent resurgent of th warm fall colors. Thanks for showing this beautiful top today.

  22. I’m so sorry that your father is ill. My prayers for his recovery and for the rest of your family as well. Take good care of yourself as well.

  23. Sending well wishes and prayers for your father’s speedy recovery. I know you both must be so thankful you there by his side.

  24. Very sorry to learn your father is ill. I hope he has a swift and uneventful recovery.

    I’m embarrassed to ask this question while you are caring for your father but I would have to come back another time if I didn’t ask now. I have a closet full of clothing that I love but it’s just too much. Where do I start pairing down? I must have 15 plus pairs of white paints/capris/pedal pushers. How many do I keep? Do I begin by choosing a color? Creating outfits? Every season I redo my closet but it’s exhausting. Not looking forward to it. I’m retired, 72 years old. I have whatever I need for any occasion but it’s too much.

    I would appreciate any suggestions for getting started.

    Thank you.

    1. I’m glad you gave me something else to think about for a few minutes, Beth.
      It will always be overwhelming to evaluate the whole wardrobe at once, so take one category, white pants, for example, and try on each pair on a day when you are made up and feel good about your appearance. If the pants don’t fit correctly, if they don’t make you feel like the best version of yourself, or if they are not comfortable when you sit, move, and bend, let them go.

  25. Susan, I’m sorry to hear about your father’s circumstance. I’ll take a look at the plum top. I want to thank you for mentioning the Pilates on YouTube. I practiced yoga for five years but have abandoned that and now do Move with Nicole daily after my morning walk. It’s wonderful.

  26. Dear Susan,

    Sending prayers to you and yours during this time. You look lovely in the plum color and I think wearing your favorites now will be like a cozy comfort blanket a bit in sterile sad hospitals. Take good care of you too and blessings to you and Mr. Mickey.

  27. Somehow I’d missed that your family have been sick. Very best wishes for father’s complete recovery. The plum color is perfect for you.

  28. Blessings on your father’s health, and you for caring for him. I prayed for your little city last week when I heard there was some flooding.

    Looking forward to more posts as you are able.

    Always,
    Brandye

  29. Prayers for you and your family. Tough times. I went through it with both my parents. It took a long time but afterwards I looked back and realized there were many hidden blessings amidst the suffering. I hope it is the same for you.

  30. I so enjoy your posts. Although I am cool coloring like you, I am definitely not shaped like you. I am small busted and the largest part is hips. 5′ 7″ tall and 148 lbs. The most trouble I have is layering. I don’t like to use scarves. Sometime sweaters are too warm, but air conditioning can get too cool for me. How do you decide what length for your shirts and outer layers to be, especially since my figure and height is different from yours? Any help is appreciated since I don’t have much fashion sense. Thank you in advance for any help. Maybe you can address this quandary in a post. Hope your father feels better real soon.

    1. It sounds like you might have a pear shape, Kathy. Dress in smooth-fitting dark bottoms and light or brighter colored tops with details to draw the eye upward. Don’t wear long tops that end at your widest part.

  31. Susan, your loyal followers appreciate you very much! Your loyalty to family and friends is so appealing to hear. Thank you for giving of yourself to those that follow you. You are a treasure.

  32. So sorry to hear about your Father. Sending good thoughts your way. Thanks for the posts, always enjoy learning from them.

  33. Prayers for your father, you and your family.
    Thank you for your advice on downsizing clothing wardrobe. I am finding several items that I had forgot about, that I can now wear and I have also donated to Teen Challenge several bags of clothing items. Praying that everyone who touches the clothes will truly be blessed. It is a freeing experience seeing my huge closet and shoe closet filled with clothing, shoes and boots I enjoy.

  34. I am so sorry your father is so ill from Covid. I love your posts as they inspire me to be a better, put together, 70 year old still working.

  35. I am so sorry to hear you and your family have been ill with COVID! I always enjoy your posts and look forward to your posts, I thought something may not have been right. Prayers for all of you.

  36. Susan, your time with your Dad in ICU is so important. Glad you can be with him. I’m so very sorry to learn of his illness. May love, light, comfort & healing surround him, you, & loved ones at this fragile time.

  37. Oh Susan so sorry to read about your father. All my best wishes for your father and for you to stay healthy despite the ICU!

  38. Prayers for your father. And also for you. I’ve spent many long hours in hospitals bedside to loved ones this summer.
    Prayers for your mother too. It must be hard on her. I’ve learned so much from you. Thank you.

  39. I have been following your blog for a little while now and I anxiously looked forward to each new post! You have helped me tremendously in thinking about and building a wardrobe that works for my newly retired lifestyle. (Honestly I wish I would have found you sooner! Your tips and photos are such a help!) I also love reading about your adventures. Sure wish we lived closer (I am in California). Your area is absolutely beautiful. You inspire my desire to travel, but also to think about our own neighboring areas that I have yet to explore. Your posts always make me smile. Thank you so much! You and Mr. Mickey seem like such great companions. Keep enjoying your many travels, dates, and time together……and keep sharing!

    I am so sorry to hear about your father’s slow recovery from Covid. I pray for your strength as you care for him and that he gets better each day. Please take care.

    Cindy

  40. I’m so very sorry to hear of your father’s battle with this disease. He will be voiced in my evening prayers.

    On another topic, Talbots is having their fall sale. At one time I would sit with pen and paper and order indiscriminately. You have taught me, at 71, how to analyze what I have and only replace things that have worn out, become discolored or does not fit anymore. When it came to ordering, I did not order anything. My husband is amazed. I’m wearing my white jeans and blue jeans, with an occasional black slack, with tops that go with the above. We don’t give up our white jeans in Florida so I’m tempted to buy one more pair while on sale. Thank you for your time and sharing your wardrobe and knowledge with us.

  41. Said a prayer over your Daddy. Though vague unexpected symptoms linger in most of us post Omicron, I am thankful you are able to be a voice of trust by his bedside. I find cranberry and certain plum shades..not purples compliment my skin tones and hair shade.. Thanks for sharing.

  42. Do hope your father recovers soon Susan … for your sake too … hospital visiting is exhausting and upsetting . Thank you for this post … a reminder we do not need quantity … just quality !

  43. Susan, I am very saddened to hear of your father’s illness with a COVID variant. My 94 yr old father experienced the same earlier this year and it was a nightmare for me. Although I am sad, he is in his heavenly home with my mother and brother. I will pray for your father, you and your family and I hope your father heals and regains his health. God bless you and your family.

  44. So sorry to hear you are going through such a heart wrenching time with your father. Prayers going out to you. As Beth L mentioned, it seems like an inappropriate time to be asking a fashion question. But since you are on this topic, I, too, could use some advice. I’m 67, have always loved fashion and basically know what works and not works for me. But this cool/warm tone issue has me needing to revamp some of my wardrobe. I’ve got a warm skin tone and USED to have nice dark brown hair that I highlighted seasonally. However, a year and a half ago, I developed alopecia, and lost a huge amount of my hair, leaving me with many large round bald spots. Coloring my hair was out of the question so I had to let it go. When it started coming in, my hair went totally white and I mean Snow White! As it continues to fill in, the front has stayed pure white but all my hair from my ears backwards is now coming in black! It’s the craziest hair I’ve ever seen. Now to where I need some I input! My skin tone is still a medium warm color but with new hair my hair color, should I go for the cool colors? I’ve started donating some of my fall tops that were in the warmer colors for tops now in the cool tones, similar to what you wear. I’ve always favored gold jewelry but silver has been in style for so long I’ve switched to wearing most silver now. Any suggestions for this gal with a nice golden skin tone, but with white hair in the front and almost black in the back?? Again, thoughts and prayers for you and yours during this difficult time. There isn’t a family I know that hasn’t been touched by Covid. Last year, I lost my dear sweet sister-in-law (age 67) who was my BFF. My heart still aches, but I take comfort that she’s got her new heavenly body!!

  45. Prayers for your Dad and you. We have had the it too and trying to get over it.
    I still see pictures of you on FB sites I know you didn’t approve.

  46. Hi Susan, I wish you all the very best in these troubling times and thank you for posting your beautiful blog

  47. Oh, Susan, I am so sorry to hear you were sick again and that your daddy is in ICU. I know how hard it is to see a parent ill. Extended time in the hospital with a loved one is draining as well. I’m praying for you both and thanking God Mr. Mickey is ever by your side. What a blessing.

  48. The plum is beautiful and LL Bean is always a good choice. Prayers for comfort and no pain for your dad. Hospitals are exhausting for the patient and the caretaker.

  49. Plum looks radiant on you with your beautiful silver locks. I also love the length of your hair. It softly frames your face. Best wishes and prayers for your father.

  50. It’s so hard when our parents that are older get sick . Will hold all of you in my thoughts and prayers.
    I just ordered that very same top in black but returned because it was very unflattering on me . Even my husband said it made my hips look large . I have broad shoulders with a defined waist – hourglass . I wish it had worked for me.

  51. You look beautiful in these photos. You totally have your “style” figured out! Worrying about a loved one is stressful and I hope you are able to figure out good and helpful ways to cope. I’m sending good vibes to you.

  52. Thank you for a lovely blog that I have enjoyed for years. It has been so helpful. I will be praying for you and your dad.

  53. Susan,
    Thank you for all your helpful posts!
    I love reading your blog and appreciate not having to compete with ads to read your post!

    Thoughts & prayers to you and your dad!

    Mickey K

  54. So sorry to hear your father is in ICU. That is very stressful and concerning.
    You always present your best self to the world, and that takes work!
    Thanks so much for sharing your life journey with us.

  55. Susan,
    My prayer is for a cure for this virus that has spiked again. I admire you not only for all you do for us followers, but also how well you take care of your family. May the good lord be with you all and God speed. Take care!

  56. Pretty in plum! Get well wishes to your Dad, sorry to hear he’s in ICU. I’m sure he’s comforted with you being close, and bringing him comfort. Get well soon and thanks for sharing. Hugs.

  57. Thank you! I have learned so much from you about how to make outfits successful!
    You are so lovely and keep it simple. I have pared down my clothes and jewelry (lots of
    things I just never wore…). It feels good to have such a better idea of how to create
    successful outfits.
    Best to you and your family. So sorry to hear about your father’s illness.
    Hugs,
    Joyce

  58. I’m so sorry to hear about your father, I hope he recovers soon.

    This is a beautiful top and I already ordered one. Thank you for your tips – they are always so helpful. My best to you and Mr. Mickey.

  59. Dear Susan, I hope your father’s health improves and am grateful that you are able to be with him.

  60. Susan, Being no stranger to long hospital bedside routines, I found that it was always a blessed time for prayer and meditation, and for journaling. It provides a certain serenity and refreshes. Your natural look is already serene, so I’m not too sure that we’ll see a difference even with your sadness and long hours–or any other stresses in your life. My best to you during this poignant time and for the comfort of your father. You have been more a part of an intense grieving process for me than you can know. After five years, following two tragedies and countless changes, I have begun to make great progress as I embraced better self care since finding your blog. Bless you and your family, Janette

  61. So sorry to hear about your father. I hope he is well soon. Love the plum looks great on you.I enjoy your posts.

  62. Lovely outfit and inspiring message. I’m downsizing to a more solid, classic, minimalist wardrobe of quality items that fit my shape, personality, and desire for comfort. Again, your thoughtful posts have inspired me to stay on task.
    Prayers for healing for you and your family.

  63. I’m sorry to hear your father’s in the ICU and I hope he’s better very soon. I know what it’s like to sit with a loved one in the hospital. I’m glad you’re able to be there with him.

  64. Susan,
    My prayer is for a cure for this virus that has spiked again. I admire you not only for all you do for us followers, but also how well you take care of your family. May the good lord be with you all and God speed. Take care! Pat

  65. Kia kaha Susan, praying for comfort and strength as you support your father. Hope all your loved ones recover soon.

  66. You look great in plum color, but you look great in the rest of your colors too. I will be praying for you and your family. Its a hard road that the journey of life take us though at times. I am sure your presence by his side will provide him with much love, emotional support and comfort. Sending you peace, serenity and healing!

  67. I admire your dedication to us, your followers, while sitting at your father’s side. Being present with your father is the most important work you can do right now and it speaks of the caring person you are.

  68. I’m so sorry to hear of your father’s illness. I pray for your strength and his healing. You are amazing and I appreciate your efforts to share your wisdom and knowledge.

  69. Sue, your haircut is great — very flattering! And your minimal make-up and skin care is obviously working well for you. I’ve been working on minimizing my wardrobe to make everything work better together so thanks for your examples and suggestions. I hope your father is able to recover – best wishes to you and him.

  70. Oh Susan I’m so sorry about your father. It is so hard not to wear yourself out, but take some breaks for yourself as well. Your dad would want you to….love your blog, uh, love your clothes, your makeup…you are inspirational and I am way older than you…

  71. Susan

    I am so sorry that your father is so sick. I will be praying for him.
    Love the plum and white. It looks great on you.

  72. Sorry to hear about your father. I was wondering why you have not posted anything for awhile. I do enjoy your posts because you always have some good recommendations for someone with cool coloring. I really like the plum Lands End shirt. Take care and stay healthy

  73. Bless your heart; you had Covid twice? If you told us that before, I missed it. Happy that you’re healthy now but wishing the very best for your Dad! The patient needs prayers but often, so does the caregiver. I’m learning a lot from you on choosing clothing and colors, also from Justine Leconte. I doubt the Plum would have caught my attention but it’s a perfect color; thanks for sharing it with us!

  74. So sorry to see that your father is in the ICU. I really enjoy your post and the information that you share with us. I will be praying for your father and the rest of your family to recover from omicron.

  75. Thinking of you as you support your dad and praying for a complete recovery for him. Take care of yourself, too.

  76. Susan, I’m sorry to hear your family has been unwell with the variant. Keeping you all in my thoughts, and thank you for posting this, even though you have so much going on!

  77. You are giving your father precious moments by being with him as he is in the hospital. What a blessing for both of you! I am sending you and the family prayers during this stressful time.

    Plum is a perfect color for you. Thank you for taking the time to write this post.

  78. Plum is certainly your color!
    Your shopping habits have changed over the years. When I first began following you, almost all your clothes came fro Shop My Fair Lady. I still have some of the items I bought at your recommendation. Are they out of style? Should I be tossing those things????

    1. I adore the folks at Shop My Fair Lady, and they offer very well-made beautiful clothing and tunics. I no longer wear high heels, so I also stopped wearing tunics. If you still enjoy yours you can keep wearing them.

  79. I am very sorry to hear that your father is so ill. Let me add my prayers to all the others you are receiving.

  80. 22,000 followers my word, it is a wonderful thing that you do reaching out to so many around the world.
    Reading your followers comments you are well loved , and myself included too.I remember when you were so ill
    and Mr Mickey was your rock and then when he ended up with a broken ? Leg you were his rock. With your Dad being so poorly
    you have Mr Mickey to love and support you at home. I am 68 and my dear Dad died from Leukaemia when I was 14 , I still
    yearn for his love but my lovely mother although grieving badly herself we all supported each other. There are family and loved ones
    for you to help you through your dads illness and of course 22, 000 followers showing their love and respect .
    The plum top and your make up looks lovely but to me what shines through is a very warm classy lady. You have my respect posting
    at this worrying time.
    You and Mr Mickey take care and rest when you can,
    Best wishes.
    Pamela from Wales UK.

  81. I sensed that something was wrong. I’m so sorry you got reinfected, and I’ll keep your dad in my prayers. Be sure to take care of yourself too—being a caregiver is so taxing. It was very generous of you to think of us during this trying time. Be safe.

  82. Susan, the plum is so flattering on you! Your skin also looks radiant.
    I am so sorry about your dad and what you are going through right now. I know how much strength that takes. I will hold you and your dad in my prayers. Take good care of yourself, Mary

  83. My goodness! Thank you so much for taking the time to post when you have so much worry and anxiety. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, especially your father.
    Kindest regards
    Carol

  84. Praying for your father to recover completely with no complications and that you will be strengthened as you give him care. May you both experience the presence of the Lord God Almighty — Father, Son and Holy Spirit.

  85. I am beginning to travel a bit with my husband as his health permits. We recently went on a riverboat cruise for 9 days. I mostly wear jeans as per the era and the area I grew up in. I am most comfortable in jeans. But had to have a few more dressy/casual things for the trip. So I bought casual navy pants and a pair of white jeans. Never wore the white ones. But I was wondering if white jeans can be worn through the fall season?

  86. Hello Susan, I just wanted to say so very sorry that your father is unwell due to this awful virus and I hope he responds to the treatment and the great care you and the medical staff give him ❤️ . I always look forward to reading your blog and take inspiration from the colours and styles you put together so thankyou and please continue.

    Kind regards Paula

  87. I am so sorry to hear your news, Susan. I hope your father is as comfortable as possible, and hope too that you are getting some rest. It is lovely that you are able to be with him. You look glorious in that lovely plum colour. Like you, I have cool colouring and there is an online Uk company called Kettlewell Colours who produce a range of wonderful colours to suit the different colour seasons. That plum is certainly in my chart!
    Wishing you all the very best ❤️

  88. I am sorry to hear that you and your family have not been well. I hope all is well soon.
    You do look very smart in that burgundy top

  89. Sending love and prayers for your father. May he recover soon. Thanks always for your brilliant newsletters, I really enjoy them!

  90. Susan, kindest regards to both you and your father. It’s such a tough time when our parents become ill. Take care.

  91. Susan, I pray your father recovers soon. My husband and I are in our 70s and both recovering from Covid. I love your posts and have learned much from you. Hugs.

  92. I always wondered if I had a cool or warm complexion. Thank you for helping me figure that one out. Many prayers for your dad.

  93. Susa,
    I am so sorry to read about your Dad and hope he recovers soon. I also hope you continue to feel better.

    Lisa C

  94. So sorry to learn of your father’s illness. Sending wishes for a good recovery and good health to all your family and of course the wonderful Mr Mickey.
    Don’t forget to look after yourself.
    Thank you for all your advice, much appreciated.

  95. Susan I am sad to hear this about your Father’s health but so happy to hear you are able to be bedside with him – that was not always the case when this virus came about and many people were left with no one at their bedside. It was a horrible and cruel thing to let these patients isolated. I am grateful we are learning from that mistake. Prayers for you and yours.

  96. Susan, I’m so sorry to hear that your dad is so ill and requiring to be in ICU. How blessed he and your mom are for having such loving, kind and devoted daughters to watch over them. Prayers for all.

    On another note, plum is definitely one of your colors but I must comment on how beautiful your hair looks. Thank you for taking the time to post with all that is going on in your life right now. I love your posts and look forward to them.

  97. This color shade looks absolutely beautiful on you! I noticed that L.L. Bean website does not indicate the length for any of their tops. Could you share the length of the top that you are wearing in your post, please?

  98. Good morning. Susan I am so sorry your Father is ill. As a RN , ICU I know you are in a scary new place. . Your Dad is in the safest place in the hospital. Just know the lights, the machines, the constant noises can make you feel sort of a post traumatic stress. That is so normal. Make sure you stay hydrated and supported emotionally. The staff will vigilantly and lovingly care for him. Sending prayers and love to you both. Bette O’Connor RN MSN

  99. Hope life brings joy and peace as you care for your family. Enjoy your down to earth life style and elegant flair.

  100. I’m sorry that your father is ill as is the rest of your family is sick also. Thank you for putting in the effort to keep your followers up on fashion and skin care. Sometimes these things are the lift that we need. Take care.

  101. Thanks so much for your thoughtful posts. I hope all goes well for you and your family. Take care of yourself.

  102. Susan, prayers for you, your Dad, your Mom and sister. No matter what the outcome with your Dad, you will find comfort in knowing you are such a big help to him.
    Although we are different shapes (I am more an hourglass or small pear), we are pretty much the same size and coloring. So although I usually wear navy on the bottom and never white, I get so much from seeing what colors you choose. I almost exclusively wear some shade of blue and a little white. I think this plum might be a nice addition.
    Thank you for all you do, not only for your readers, but most importantly, for your family.

  103. Susan,
    So sorry to hear of your fathers illness and thankful you are feeling well. You look beautiful in the plum color. You always look terrific, well put together, age appropriate and confident without looking frumpy. I wish I could hire you to overhaul my closet and take you shopping. I’d like to pare down. May your family continue to heal.

  104. Oh Susan, just this morning before I even got up, I thought of you and wondered if you were ok. And your post today confirms that indeed you have a lot on your plate now with your dad in the hospital. Prayers for him, you, and all you family.

    Your plum colors are lovely on you!

  105. Thank you very much you took the time to place another post about your (lovely) clothes. I am so very sorry that your father is in the hospital. You must feel a lot of grieve and stress. Along with all the other people, I will pray for your father and your whole family, that everyone will recover as soon as possible. Take care , greetings to Mr. Mickey .Strength to you ,everything will be allright .

  106. Susan,
    I’m sorry to hear that your Dad is not well, and will keep you all in my prayers.
    The plum color is so pretty on you with your coloring. I’ve long been a fan of LLBean for the classic clothing and great quality.
    Thank you for another lovely post. Your email is one that I am always happy to see in my box, whenever you are able to post.
    Best wishes,
    Valla

  107. Sending prayers for your father to have a quick recovery. Your outfit and hair look great!
    Stay well. Thank you for continuing the blog.

  108. Do you live in North Carolina/South Carolina?

    I’m a summer in my color palette. When Fall arrives, I have trouble with colors that look good on me because everything is so dark. Bt the way, the plum color on you is gorgeous!!

  109. Prayers for your family as well as yourself for strength to recover. I have same skin tone as you and plum/purples have always been my best color but sometimes a challenge to find!

  110. Love the plum color. Thank you for the post.

    I will say a prayer for your Father as I hit the send button. Take care Susan and hi to Mr. Mickey.
    Patty V

  111. Your insight of fashion is most appreciated because you are relatable. Keep posting. Thoughts & prayers are with you at this time.

  112. Firstly my thoughts are with you and I wish your father a speedy recovery. Your article is timely, I ordered a cotton turtleneck that was advertised as deep red, only to find it was actually a brick colour, more rust than red. My colouring is cool so I’m not too confident it’s going to look good. I’ve resolved to wear it underneath something as a bottom layer in the winter as I can’t return it, sales final. Regards, and love your posts!

  113. Susan, I sorry to hear your father isn’t well. God bless you for caring fir him..

    Praying for a speedy recovery for him and strength for you.

  114. Good morning Susan from NY. I hope your father will get better soon. I always love your posts and your valuable advice. I’m looking forward to read your posts and learn something new each time. Thank you so much.

  115. Hoping and praying that all your family will be well soon and please take care of yourself. It might be selfish but we need your smile and good advise in fashion.

  116. I’ve been reading & following your advice, including Eat to Live recommendation. Thank you.
    Prayers for you & your father.

  117. Thanks for showing the color differences with a side by side illustration using identical items. It helps!

    Sorry y’all have been battling that blankety blank virus again, and hope your dad is now recovering at home.

    We were both down with a second round of this mutating virus, even though we were both fully vaxxed and boosted, first round was in December, and our second round was in July. He took Paxlovid this time and was better in 5 days. I took nothing and also was better in 5 days. Go figure! Really irritating.

    I appreciate your suggestions and look forward to reading your posts. Your advice is spot on.

  118. I, too, missed your emails, and I’m so sorry to hear about your recent illness and your dad’s. Prayers for you and your loved ones lifted now.

  119. We are all sending comfort your way, Susan. It’s interesting how styles have changed since the pandemic. Clothing styles are so much more casual. Thanks for helping us navigate the changes and still look well put together. Your ideas for retirement looks keep us from settling for frumpy apparel. and Instead we can embrace a chic casual look and feel good about ourselves. We do appreciate all the research and kind words of encouragement that you post!

  120. I love the plum color on you, So far it is one of my favorites. Prayers for your Father & your family. I know being a caregiver is hard.

  121. Prayers for your Dad and you. Hope he will feel better soon.

    I also have a cool complexion and am glad to have you as a guide for colors to try. I find myself buying the wrong colors because I like them only to find out they make me look washed out.

  122. You are my favorite person to follow and refer to when I have a question about fashion, makeup, diet …..well everything you write about. I love all of it!
    I am so sorry your dear father is unwell. My prayers for a speedy complete recovery ❤️

  123. Thank you for the helpful information on choosing fall colors that are cool, the plum is lovely. So sorry to hear of your fathers poor health.

  124. Hello Susan, heartfelt prayers for your dear Dad; may his symptoms improve every hour. This plum color you are featuring looks awesome on you! Take care!

  125. My heart is heavy for you at this crucial time with your Father. Seeing a loved one ill is heart wrenching and watching them suffer or being uncomfortable for any reason tears at our whole being. Know just your being there with him must give him great comfort and peace. I do hope you take of yourself as well.. Thoughts and prayers with you and your family.
    Clara from Iowa

  126. Dear Susan,
    My heart goes out to you during this anxious time. In April, my 93 year old dad was power walking about 5 km/day. Then he started failing rapidly over the summer, was hospitalized for several weeks, and is now home. He can barely move or eat and his heart is very weak. The burden on my mother is getting to a critical point. My brothers & I help out as much as possible.
    Luckily, my dad and I can still chat away on so many subjects.
    You look so lovely in the plum colour. Thank you for your common sense approach to keeping fashionable and classy. Your cheerful and informative posts have helped me to focus more carefully during purchases and while putting together a casual daily look.
    Please take care of yourself.

  127. HI Susan. I hope your father is on the mend.
    Thank you for your posts. I have a question about color. Do you have a color palette? Do you have one color that you build on? I watched a video the other day and the woman was showing yarns for upcoming projects. Her colors were perfect together but not monochromatic. I know I am a cool color person but beyond that I’m clueless. I look at clothes in catalogs and I think they are beautiful but I don’t think about how they fit into my personal color plan. A year ago, I emptied my closet and I’m only putting back things that fit and are useful. I had a lot of black, to be on the safe side. Now I want to purchase a few new things but I’m not sure what colors to buy. Thank you for your wisdom.

    1. I have a favorite silk scarf with lovely blue, white, plum, gray, and taupe tones. That color combo inspired the wardrobe I have now. I use it to guide me in new purchases since I already know all those colors work together so well, and they look good on me.

  128. Dear Susan,
    I’m sorry to learn that your father is in the hospital. Having navigated this experience with my parents several times I know the stress, but I’m glad that you’re able to be with him. It’s so important for him, for you and the rest of your family.
    Barbara

  129. Oh Susan, praying for you and your dear Father. Our family is currently hard hit with this version of COVID as well, the first time any of us have had COVID. My Dear father is just now at the ER, my hubby had to take him as I’m still in quarantine. Take care of yourself.

    I’m also cool skin tones, so love your new finds! Amy

  130. You are such a blessing to all of us…plus you are very beautiful and I would say ‘inside and out”
    Thank you for taking time to guide and direct us with all your postings.
    God bless you and strengthen you as you sit with your Father with your love and presence.

    1. I asked my stylist to trim only the length at the neck for a couple of months. But, now, when I visit, she shapes up the crown and back so that the bulk isn’t too unruly.

  131. Here’s wishing your father good health. He’s in good hands with you. Susan, we so appreciate everything you so generously share, since we’re all pretty much in the same boat (as retirees). I love your choice of basic solids and wonderful accessories. The photo of you in plum was a work of art. Take care & please keep up the good work.

  132. Dear Susan,
    I’m so sorry to hear of your Fathers illness. Please know I am sending prayers and love to you and your family. Take care of yourself and so glad you have Mr. Mickey’s support.

  133. So very sorry that your Dad is very ill. I understand and you have my empathy. You radiate a calming and nurturing presence in all your post. Your style is comfortable, attractive and often perfect for whatever you are doing. Be well. Stay strong.

  134. Well wishes to your father! And to you and your family. Thank you for continuing to post. I have learned so much from you in your suggestions. I love the simplicity and class of your styling. I’m hoping that you can continue when things improve with your father. Thank you to Mr Mickey who assists you in your well appreciated work. Take care.

  135. Wishing you all the best during your difficult time. Our prayers are for you, your family and, of course, your dear father.

  136. Susan, I’ve been there and done that. I know it’s emotionally and physically exhausting. However, thinking back on it, I truly feel it was my privilege to be there to help each of my parents through their final journeys – I’ll always be thankful for that. You’re in my thoughts during this difficult time.

  137. Sending positive vibes, and prayers to you, your father, and your medical team.

    You always look lovely. I found as I get older I am steering farther away from trends. I realize how much the “basics” have carried me through and are often the first and also the most
    consistent things I grab from the closet.
    As a senior-age woman, (still wonder how I got here so fast), I want to look nice, classy, and relevant, without wearing styles too dated, tired and worn looking, or too trendy as none of those is appealing.
    I find myself being more aware of what other women my age are wearing. I find the right accessories are often key.
    Recently, I’ve looked at photos of myself in the last few years and tried to be honest and objective with what is best for me.
    My body shape has changed, and my hair color too. I appreciate your posts and those of women of varied ages, shapes, and sizes over 60.
    Working on feeling pertinent and confident as a maturing human helps. I enjoy having the opportunity to read posts and see photos relating to the lovely “sisterhood” of fashion.
    Thanks so much!

  138. Hi Susan,
    You always look beautiful and so well put together.
    I’m so very sorry to hear your father is in ICU. You must be under pressure right now. My thoughts are with you and your father and family. A very difficult time.
    Take care of yourself.
    Sending warm hugs your way.

  139. Susan,
    Praying for your Father & you. Heavenly Father give Susan & her Father strength for the day. Lift them up & give healing I pray in Jesus name Amen

  140. I really enjoy your site. I am using your packing selections for a trip in a couple days. I have worked at thinning it down to 3 interchangeable colors for a 2 week trip. Hope your father recovers and life gets back to normal for you.

  141. Susan,
    You remain conscientious of your followers despite the change in your father’s health status. I have to say you are a real trooper. It’s important to keep doing what you normally do to maintain a balance in stressful times. Take good care of yourself.
    For your newer readers, I suggest they go on Pinterest for your previous posts if they have time. The understanding of body types is fantastic and you explain it so well.
    Plum is very flattering on you.

  142. So very sorry to hear about your dear father I will add him and your family to my prayer list. Stay strong Susan

  143. Very sorry to hear that you and your family have been ill. Praying your father gets well soon and you are all in good health.

  144. I enjoy your posts so much. I’m a cool color person too. Only wear silver & love plum. You & your father are in my prayers. I cared for my parents also. And looking back I count it a privilege & a joy. Take care of yourself. You are not alone.

  145. Susan, I know all too well what you are going through with your Dad, however, I do know that with your strength and perseverance you will see this through and come through the other side even stronger. I always enjoy reading your posts and find all your suggestions extremely helpful. After I retired a few years ago, I did a major purge of the wardrobe from business attire, but until I found your post, it was difficult for me to make decisions on what I needed to replace them with. I now have a well stocked closet and don’t really need much more, but I do love the plum colored new top you are wearing, looks comfortable too, I may just have to have it myself! Take care and prayers for you and your father.

  146. I am so sorry to hear that your father is ill. We had “the virus” in May and it took us a few weeks to return to normal. Praying for your family. And Thank you for sharing your wonderful fashion tips with us.

  147. Oh my. So sorry to hear that your dad is in ICU but, what a comfort it must be to him that you can be there. Will hold you and your loved ones in my thoughts and prayers and send healing energy too.

  148. Susan,
    You and your family will be in my prayers. I am sure your father feels your love and concern. It is a blessing that you are with him while he is in the hospital.
    God’s comfort to you.
    Judy Rains
    Mooresville, NC

  149. Susan,

    I am so sorry to hear that your father is in the hospital. Remember to take care of yourself while you care for him too, especially if you had Omicron recently. I love reading your emails, but family comes first! Sending love and prayers …
    Kate

  150. Sending prayers and strength for your dad’s recovery. Please take care of yourself, Susan. The role of a caregiver is vital, but also tiring and difficult.

  151. Susan-
    First of all my thoughts & prayers are with you & your family. It’s so taxing to have an I’ll aging parent, and especially when they are in ICU. I send love & hope for a full recovery.

    I’ve been following you for many years & love your style. You always inspire me with suggestions to stay current/polished. I too have downsized my wardrobe & stick to basics (I even have that same plum top from LL Bean -too funny!). Less definitely is MORE and I too keep favorites for the long haul. I continue to enjoy your content/ suggestions. I’ll be 60 next year & look forward to many more posts from you to help me maintain impeccable style! Thank you!

  152. Susan, I echo the sentiments of all your readers who have written heartfelt messages to you. We care about you and your loved ones. Some of my family and friends have dealt with multiple reoccurrences of the virus. I was especially concerned about my 97-year-old mother, blessed with good health, she recovered at home and doing well. Prayers are so powerful, and you will be in our thoughts and prayers. We’ll be here waiting for you whenever the time is right for you.

    On a lighter note, I ordered the royal plum V-neck top. I have a L. L. Bean store just a couple of miles away, but it is out of stock and my order will not be delivered until mid to late October. By then I’ll have my gray and black jeans out with booties to match. Your outfit looks stunning on you and I really like the length and style of your hair.
    God’s blessings to you, your family, Mr. M.

  153. Thank you for your reply about taking along your scarf with a color palette in it. I love this idea and it will help me buy clothes that go together.

  154. Dear Susan,
    So sorry to read of your father’s serious illness. Our thoughts are with you as you go through this difficult time. It is amazing what medical science can do. We sincerely hope things improve. Our best wishes go to you
    Kind regards
    Aileen Goodwin

  155. Susan, I am so sorry to hear that your father is in ICU. I am glad that you are able to spend time with him. I hope your other family members are also able to spend time with him in the near future. I also hope that you mother is doing well.
    I will keep him in my prayers.

  156. I wish for your father and you to have peace, comfort, and good health. Thank you for all of your ideas. They are inspiring.

  157. Dear Susan,
    I’m so very sorry to hear of your father‘s illness and I pray for his recovery and for strength for you to continue caring for him.
    I also pray for God’s blessings for you, your father and your entire family.

    Sincerely,
    Susan Haynes

  158. Thank you for your posts. I enjoy picking up styling tips with each new edition. You have helped me grow into my new role of retiree and navigating unexpected changes with grace. I think of you whenever we travel to the Asheville/Blowing Rock area. My prayers are with you this day as you navigate your father’s illness and lingering COVID ramifications in you and your family.

    One question I have for you Does your color complexion change with age. Over 40 years ago I have a fond memory of my Mom, Aunt and cousin having a wonderful time with a local stylist who gave us color swatches of our best colors. I was a fall with the warmer tones and my Mom was a summer (Aunt was a winter and my cousin didn’t care…she wasn’t buying into the swatch theory as she loves all colors..lol) We had the best time that day and I’m grateful for the memory. Now in my 60s with my gray-speckled hair, I tend to enjoy the cooler colors, like the plum..one of my favorite colors, rather than the burgandy. I’m wondering if I’m aging myself more than necessary by gravitating to the incorrect color. Are you once a fall always a fall? Thank you for this post. Very helpful to see the two colors side by side..even though I found myself liking both colors!

    Blessings to you,

    1. You may be a softer version of autumn colors now, but from what I’ve studied, you don’t change from warm to cool undertones.

      Thank you for your kind words and wishes.

  159. I am very sorry to hear about your Father. Prayers that he is comfortable and healing.
    I am slowly going through my closet to donate items that do not work for me any longer. Your wardrobe concept is one I’m trying to adopt. For me having too many choices is just confusing! Thank you!

  160. Dearest Susan,
    I am praying for you as you care for your dad…..that Jesus gives you His wisdom and strength during these days…. and pain free days for your dad. Thanking Him for your health so that you can do this for your dad.
    Your suggestions are just endless!!! I treasure your ideas and have copied these ideas numerous times, receiving many compliments along the way.
    Letting you know here in Texas we LOVE you….and wish the best for you, Mr. Mickey, and your dad.

    Sincerely,
    Carole

  161. I’m so sorry your father is ill. It sounds like your family is,going through a tough time, so I’m sending prayers.

    I think I will be ordering the top. It is difficult to find cool color clothing this year, and I am in dire need. I am keeping your tips in mind.

    Thank you!

  162. Dear Susan,
    Love your blog and your great advice. Please know how much all your effort is appreciated. Hope your father is doing better. I have also spent time as a caregiver at the side of a hospitalized beloved parent. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
    Anita

  163. Susan,
    Sending you good thoughts, and prayers. Hoping your father takes comfort in knowing you are there with him.
    Also please take care of yourself as well. It is heart wrenching caring for our loved ones. Try not to get run down yourself.
    We will all be thinking of you.

  164. Prayers for your dad”s full recovery. Prayeers for you also ,it is not easy to see a parent suffer no matter what age.

  165. Thank you again for an excellent post! I so hope your dear father comes through this. Being a caregiver is very challenging as I know, I did it for 2 1/2 years before my mother passed away at 87 on 11/19/20. Please take good care of yourself and know we love you!

  166. I still want to know here you bought the deep plum 3/4 length sleeve top with the “V” neck which is something I’ve not seen. Please share

  167. So sorry to hear about your father. Pray he’ll recover fully and that you’ll get some rest. The plum is beautiful on you. Love your purchasing philosophy

  168. Susan! You are amazing! I am also Susan, 66 years old…i have alway been slender, but the last 5 or 6 years have me now needing to lose 25-30 pounds. It is so very humbling! I have lost 12, but still so much farther to go! My biggest issue is that I have kyphosis—forward head and neck, though i try to exercise to limit it…i have a back neck hump, which is very embarrassing to me…any suggestions?

  169. OH, so sorry to learn about your dad! Sure hope he recovers and I have him in my prayers. I didn’t even know you had Omicron. God bless you Susan, take care.

  170. Susan,
    I have been enjoying your information for years. My questions are about appearing more feminine after breast cancer treatments. I’m six years out but have thinning short hair, a double mastectomy with prosthetics but not reconstruction, and i am tired of being called” sir” . I am 5’5” 200 pounds and struggling with weight loss due to hormone therapy. I need a look that says female. I have great friends, family and a fabulous husband. I am 68 years old and color my hair brown for more thickness but would like to go gray as I am best in cool colors. Can you help me address some of these issues?
    Thank you.

    1. Accessories such as oversized earrings, lipstick, and good handbags can help you feel more confident and feminine. Tops with a collar but loose and floaty in pretty colors such as plum, pale blue, rose, or lilac can also amp up femininity. Wearing loose sweaters, jackets, and scarves draped around your neck and shoulders will also help.

  171. Susan, I can never look put together in a tee shirt. I ordered this one you are wearing and I love it! I ended up getting four because they are just perfect. The fabric is lovely and a perfect weight. Thanks for the find!
    Cathie

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