When I turned fifty, I stopped coloring my hair.
I saw my first gray hair when I was nineteen, which means I colored it for most of my life. My hair tends to grab brassy tones no matter what my stylist does, so now I have even given up on having a glaze applied to brighten it and lowlights to give it depth.
That decision results in once again letting the color grow off of my hair. It was probably late February the last time I saw my stylist, so the last chrome glaze has faded. What remains is the brassy tone only in the back on the ends from the low lights of late last year.
When I decided to let my hair grow out to its natural color the first time, it was much shorter, so I got regular trims and used a temporary color to ease the transition. My hair grows pretty fast, so I only had to deal with the transition stage for about eight months. At this length it will take more than a year to get rid of the traces of color.
The process of going gray after coloring your hair for so many years can be scary. I found that the softer silver hair that is my natural color flatters my complexion so much better than any applied color ever did. My thinking was that gray hair would make me look older, but I am sure some of those harsh colors I used made me look much older. I am thinking of the time I dyed it myself, and it turned out burgundy.
I am no stranger to taking the scissors to it on the occasions when my schedule is so full I can not take the time to visit my stylist. The smartest thing I can do is to make regular appointments to get a trim which respects the natural waves of my hair and the shape of my face. A good cut can make you look well groomed and stylish no matter what you are wearing. I don’t wash it every day, but when I do, I comb it out gently, lift the crown and dry just the roots there to give it a little lift and then use my fingers to arrange it in the style I want to have for the day. If my bangs are doing weird things that day, I will straighten them a bit with a vented brush and the dryer on the low speed. I don’t touch my hair again until it is entirely dry. A very light mist of hairspray can keep down any frizz on humid days.
The jacket is old from White House|Black Market. The tank and the ankle jeans are both old from Chico’s. The scarf is by Versace via Saks Off 5th. The fringe suede sandals are old by Dolce Vita. The bag is from last year by Ralph Lauren via 6pm.com.
My stylist is Myra who is also the owner of the Charlemont boutique and salon in Kingsport, TN. It is well worth the drive to visit her if you are within fifty miles!
Thank you for joining us as we celebrate the second fifty years of life.