Letting go of our mistakes can be very liberating. If an item serves no purpose beyond taking up space, why keep it? If an object is beautiful to look at and gives me joy, it earns a place in my life. If it reminds me of an unpleasant part of my past or the item no longer represents the woman I am now, it is time to release it.
As for my closet and style, a few guidelines continue to be helpful to me. Now that I am in my sixties, some things no longer feel right for me when I put them on. I don’t want to look like I am trying too hard, nor do I want to keep wasting money reinventing myself. I know what works, so I stick with my guidelines.
Yours may be very different, but my golden style guidelines for winter are as follows.
- Don’t wear clothing with words or logos. Look for handbags and belts without logos or bold metal hardware.
- Avoid excesses. Too much perfume or jewelry, loud prints, and bright colors or trendy pieces are not for me.
- Don’t wear distressed anything, ever.
- Avoid real leather jackets or pants. Leather can look too harsh on my aging skin and softer coloring. I opt for suede or soft faux leather that has a buttery texture instead. (Not black.)
- Wear sleek, clean neutral-colored sneakers with very casual looks, not bulky white trainers. Streamlined slip-on sneakers are better looking and more understated.
- Proper fit is critical — nothing oversize and absolutely nothing tight. The front of jackets should never vanish beneath the arm because of the bust or pull tight at the buttons. Clothing should allow freedom of movement without excessive fabric. Never wear pants that puddle on the tops of your shoes.
- Don’t buy shoes with heels higher than three inches. Block heels are more flattering and comfortable than spiked heels. Flat shoes should always have a visible arch and a pointed or almond-shaped toe.
- Cheap shoes and bags ruin the best outfit, but good ones can elevate even a T and jeans.