Since the end of October, I have spent most of my time caring for Mr. Mickey. After follow-up biopsies for bladder cancer, he developed an infection that continued until we visited the ER five times, and he was admitted to the hospital twice. I’m happy to report that he is recovering, so I can relax and share some tips. Below is today’s start-to-finish look as I head out into the snow to sit with Mr. M. for the day.
I’ve talked to many nurses lately, and they all leave their work shoes in the garage and make sure their pants are shorter so they don’t drag across hospital floors. I wore these jeans a few times with flat loafers and socks since the length is shorter than those I usually wear. The booties are a stand-in for the loafers in the garage right now. (I clean the soles with alcohol when I get home.)
I like to be prepared to throw on clothes and rush out the door. With three loved ones who are ninety or nearly, I always have a ready-to-go outfit hanging on my rolling rack or an over-the-door hook. All the items can be thrown in the wash when I get home. My go-to look is comfortable jeans, a long-sleeve tee or forever sweater, a cardigan, and warm socks with flat loafers. The colors are neutral, and the layers can be added or removed for comfort. Outerwear for your weather is also imperative for the long walks to and from the parking lot.
Emergency Room visits are always traumatic, but one way I deal with the stress is to have a large handbag or tote ready to pack with things I and the patient may need, such as insurance cards, ID, a charge card, a list of medications, and extra underwear. Cough drops, tissues, hand cream, a bottle of water, and lip balm can make a big difference when sitting by your loved one for many hours. Don’t forget a hair brush, toothbrush and paste. Phones and chargers, as well as eyeglasses and cases, are must-haves. A book is also a great comfort while the patient is sleeping.
I recently purchased a pair of Bomba compression socks here. They are great for support and comfort. The day I wore them, my varicose veins were much less noticeable, and my legs didn’t ache, so I ordered three more pairs as soon as I got home.
Thank you for the update on Mr. Mickey. I was wondering if something was amiss in your home. Mr. Mickey will be on my prayer list for a swift and complete recovery. It goes without saying that you will take care of yourself, the caregiver.
Thank you, Donna.
This is a tough journey, and one I went through myself, one foot in front of the other. It’s very important to keep in touch with friends, as you are doing. Best wishes to you, Susan.
Sending you both lots of good thoughts as you navigate these challenges.
Get well soon to Mr. Mickey. I am glad to hear he’s on the mend. My oldest child was born with severe disabilities and I we lived in the ER/ hospital for the first year of her life. You’re to go bag is an excellent idea.
So sad to hear the lovely Mr Mickey is in hospital. My very best wishes for a speedy recovery. Also Susan you must take care of yourself too.. stay strong.
I hope Mr Mickey will recover soon. My thoughts are with you at this time and ask that you make sure you take time to care for yourself as well
My heart goes out to you Susan as my husband had three bouts of urosepsis this year plus am operation to remove a bladder diverticulum. It’s very stressful and emotionally draining. I wish Mr Micky a speedy recovery and please make sure you care for yourself through this process. All the best.
Sorry to hear Mr Mickey is unwell. Wishing him a very speedy recovery.
alcohol based hand gel is another hospital essential and anti bacterial wipes for bedside surfaces.
Thank you for your post during this trying time. Love to Mr Micky
Dear Susan, thank you for the update on mr. Micky’s health. I am so glad he is recovering and I hope that he soon can regain his health. I will pray for you both for strength and happiness, Sincerely, Jolanda
Hi Susan- sending good vibes your way for you and Mr. M. Such great recommendations for those who are managing hospital visits etc. Wishing him a speedy recovery!
Cheers,
Marianne
I am praying for a complete and speedy recovery for Mr Mickey and love and good wishes for you. All of your tips are very good. As we get older, a quick trip to the hospital could be required at anytime. Good idea to be prepared.
You are and angel Susan!
I’m sorry to hear you have been spending a lot of time at the hospital. At least it sounds like Mr. Mickey is improving. I never thought about having a bag prepared and ready to go. I had to take my husband to the emergency room a few years ago but he didn’t stay long. The big problem was I couldn’t visit him for the few days he was there. The hospital wasn’t letting visitors in because of the Covid rules at the time.
I hope he gets well very soon. Again thanks for the ideas and I love the color of that sweater.
I came on your website because I was worried because you haven’t posted in a while – sigh ..
I am so very very sorry. Please take care of yourself because if you don’t you won’t be able to take care of the ones you love
Hi Susan, I am so sorry to hear that Mr Mickey has been ill. What a blessing it is for him to have you to take care of him. I wish him a speedy recovery. Your post is great on what to have in a bag when going on a hospital visit often we don’t think or realize what one might need.
Take care of yourself too.
God Bless
Elizabeth SA
Hoping for a full recovery for all.
Hope Mickey has a speedy recovery. You look like Annie Hall revisited. Stunning in baby blue.
I also included Power of medical/Attorney, pictures of us and family. If the hospital allows; essential oils were a lovely treat for the senses. A small Bluetooth speaker played soothing music from my phone or iPad. If the stay turned into a long one I would bring a quilt from home that was washable. This was a large trauma 1 hospital but I became friendly with ICU and ER staff over the years. One nurse still pet sits my dog!
And yes, I wore sneakers I could wash, always the same ones and wiped down all surfaces I touched including my phone etc.
Sending positive vibes your way.
Dottie
Prayers for Mr. Mickey’s return to better health. You’re blessed to have one another.
So sorry Mr.Mickey is ill. Prayers for a speedy recovery.
I’m so glad Mr. Mickey is recovering well. It’s so hard when our friends and relatives have serious health issues.
You are prepared as can be. Having spent months in the hospital, your advice is invaluable. I hope Mr. Mickey recovers well and goes home soon. You are a wonderful caregiver to so many. Take care of yourself too.
Thank you for continuing to think of us and do your blog even though you are so busy with caretaking. I love seeing the everyday outfits – going to the hospital, library, grocery store or out to eat for lunch. So very relatable and easy to emulate. Transition times are always a challenge. Best wishes for your strength while Mr. Mickey heals.
Great advice for items to have on hand for emergencies. So thankful Mr. Mickey is doing better!
You are busy right now. But you’ll never regret the time you spend with them. And they get to see your smile and beautiful outfits.
After spending time in ICU when my husband had a stroke I would also suggest a portable power charger for your phone. Sometimes there just is no outlet for the regular charger that isn’t being used by medical staff. It’s a good idea to wipe off your shoe soles with alcohol when you get home. I never thought of that.
Wishing Mr. Mickey a complete recovery. Be sure to do something nice for yourself during this stressful time.
Sending prayers and hugs for you and Mr Mickey
Dear Susan, I’m at once so sorry to hear of Mr. M’s cancer biopsies and infection and I’m so glad to hear he is on the mend. Thank you for taking the time to put together this email full of good tips.
When we lived in Hong Kong we got into the habit of leaving all shoes at the door, a practice we still follow in the US. The locals would provide cheap, washable slippers for quests to wear. If one takes a good look at what they are walking on no one would want that in their homes.
I hope you and Mr M can both get good rest and deep sleep going forward.
Merry Christmas,
Tara
Here is to heathy happy days ahead.
I’m so sorry to hear about your loved ones. This time of life is concerning to so many of us. Thank you for sharing some practical preparations to make hospital stays a bit easier. Your readers also had good ideas. I never thought about cleaning the bottoms of my shoes, but of course! You always look lovely and competent. I’m sure that is reassuring to Mr. Mickey and your parents. Best wishes to Mr. Mickey as he recovers. Thank you for taking time out of your very busy life to write.
Oh Susan, I am so sorry about Mr. Mickey’s health issues and hope he continues his recovery. It is always difficult to navigate the health care systems, to decide is it time to go to ER, and all the issues that comes with being the caregiver.
These are excellent tips that I will put into place myself as I care for my loved one.
Best wishes to you during these difficult days. I just love your posts as they are always informative and not geared to what to order on Amazon. (Ha)
God Bless you as you care for loved ones. Stay warm and safe!
I’m praying for Mr. Mickey’s quick recovery and for you as a caregiver to him and your parents.
Thank you, Susan, as always your suggestions are practical and easy to apply in our lives. You are appreciated!
Blessings to you and Mr. Mickey
Dear Susan, very sorry to hear all Mr Mickey and you are enduring. As always, you offer practical tips for dealing with this situation. I think the expression “grace under fire” applies to you. How blessed your loved ones are to have your loving thoughtful presence! Prayers for strength and healing for Mr Mickey and you
Thank you for this very helpful information, Susan. I hope you have a good holiday season.
As always, you meet a challenge with dignity and common sense. Prayers for the loved ones and caregivers in your life. Hope Mr. Mickey is on the mend and will soon enjoy being home. I think your routine of cleaning your shoes is a great one. I have found myself using bleach wipes (kept by the door to the garage) to clean shoes when I return home.
Caregiving has been a part of my life for quite a while. I couldn’t imagine leaving a loved one without a trusted relative or friend.
Everything you do, you do with grace,
Thankful that you can give a good progress report, indicating that Mr Mickey is finally moving forward on a better path toward restored health! Praying for a full recovery and that you both will be able to delight in being home for CHRISTmas! May your celebration be all the sweeter as you praise God for the gift of His Son!
“You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you.”
Isaiah 26:3 ESV
Prayers for you and Mr. Mickey as well as your parents. You have been a wonderful source of inspiration over the years I’ve followed your blog. Not just for fashion tips, but the way you approach life. Many thanks.
Dear Susan, Praying for Mr Mickey’s speedy recovery and for you as a caregiver. Sending hugs.
Susan, it is so good to hear from you! You not only have wonderful advice on fashion and beauty, but health and daily living activities as well. Thank you for taking the time for this post during your very hectic schedule!
I’m curious about your comment about the nurses. I’ve worked as a Home Care nurse for years. Only twice have I been asked to remove my shoes/boots. And that’s because there was heavy snow. I’ve never been asked to wear short length scrubs or roll them up. Do you just not like these nurses in your house? You can refuse Home Care visits. No one can force a patient to have them.
No, these were just informal chats with nurses in the hospital. We have not had home health care nurses yet.
I am sorry to hear about Mr Mickey’s illness and wish him the best! This was a great, practical post!
So many of us are caretakers and your advice is greatly appreciated.
I have been in your situation many times. First is my first husband. He was very ill and had multiple trips to the hospital and emergency room and passed away at 46 years old. Then with my mom and then I stayed with my dad when he was in the hospital for 70 days and then passed away. Your suggestions are right on point about what to take with you and also I included a couple of snacks because you never know if you can leave to go get something to eat or not.
I hope Mr. Mickey keeps getting better and better!
Hello Susan,
Those are excellent tips to prepare for emergency visits! I’ve had a number of them, too, as the daughter of an elderly mom. And although I always wash my clothes and remove my shoes after hospital visits, I’ve never thought to disinfect the shoes. Great tip! Thank you for these ideas!!
I’ll include Mr. Mickey in my prayers, asking for complete healing so he can return home very soon.
Prayers to you and Mr. Mickey, I’m so sorry you two are going through this.
Thinking of you.
Elise
Wishing a quick recovery for Mr. M and good health for you as well.
Nancy
I pray that Mr. Mickey will continue to improve. You are such a great caregiver to so many people! Sincerely, Angelina Rice
PS. My SIL and I did have a wonderful visit to the Biltmore. However, it was so sad to see the remnants of the devastation from Helene. Also, we went to the South Park Mall in Charlotte two days in a row. It is a great mall. Thank you for the suggestion.
Your outfits are great, Susan … and I LOVE the view from your deck. You live in a lovely place!
Oh dear, I’m so sorry to read about Mr. Mickey’s recent hospitalization. I’m glad that the doc’s have gotten to the root cause and he is on the road to recovery. How blessed Mr. Mickey is to have you by his side advocating for him during this time of recovery. Your outfit looks great as well as comfortable and you are no doubt Mr. M’s daily “ray of sunshine” every time you walk into his hospital room. No doc can write a prescription for that. The tips in this piece are so helpful and a great reminder to be prepared. Take care, Susan! You and Mr. Mickey are in my thoughts and prayers.
This post is THE BEST
I’m glad Mr. Mickey is on the mend. Hospital ER and visits are stressful for both the patient and the care giver. Thanks for the tips. Take care of each other.
So very sorry to hear about Mr. Mickey:( He s very fortunate to have you. I know “ that chair” time in a hospital. I hope it is at least a time of closeness for both of you. for rest and healing.
Bless you, Susan. for caring for not only your parents but Mr.Mickey as well. As we grow into our golden years we learn that sometimes they might not be as golden as we would like, but so glad we can live another day to see the sun rise. I am sure your loved ones appreciate your care and concern.
Morning Susan, there seem to be periods in our lives when we spend some time at hospital either for others or ourselves.I have been in hospital five times in the last two months.My daughter organized a bag similar size to yours and it has all the things you mentioned plus two pairs of knickers and my phone charger.So when the ambulance comes I am ready to go.Hoping for a good recovery for Mr Mickey and look after yourself too.
Very good ideas. I’m glad Mr. Mickey is on the mend!
Good to hear Mr Mickey is on the mend. You are so organised and your tips on having to leave home quickly are so appreciated. I’m sure your presence at the hospital cheers up everyone … patients and nursing staff. Sending love and support from England x
I was so glad to read that Mr. Mickey is recovering. Long life to that dapper and elegant man.
Love your advice for hospitals and ER’s. I’m actually printing off the list and keeping it inside the wardrobe door. The other things I would add to mine are my Kindle and some embroidery to do. But to have such a comprehensive list for when one’s mind can’t think straight? Perfect.
I’ve love your look even though its summer here and I’m sorely tempted by the blue sweater. My colour, my weight.
Cheers, Susan and thank you.
Well wishes to Mr M and other family members. Hopefully on the mend.
Glad that Mr Mickey is recovering! Prayers that he continues to do so and that you stay healthy as well! The tip about the shoes and alcohol was a great idea as I have numerous major health issues and am always scared of getting sicker if I go near Dr offices and hospitals.
Hi Susan, So sorry to hear that Mr M. has been unwell. Best wishes to you both for a better Christmas and New Year!
All the best to Mr. Mickey ❤ Take care of yourself too!
Sending best wishes for Mr. Mickey. I’m glad to hear he’s on the road to recovery. ❤️
So sorry Mr Micky has been poorly but good news he is now recovering . I would like to reiterate what some of your readers have said about you taking care of yourself too. On a lighter note , what bed socks could you get for Mr Micky ? Maybe ones with a stethoscope on or some other quirkier medical designs ,.
Oh bless him I bet he is a model patient and the staff love him.
I must say Susan you look so pretty in your outfits the shade of blue on your sweater is gorgeous. I bet you are a model visitor sitting next to Mr Mickey too.
Your lovely face and demeanour cheer him up no end I would think..
Thank you for your post always good to see you in my inbox .Special wishes to you and Mr Mickey Pamela from UK xx
So sorry to hear that Mr Mickey has been in the hospital! Bless his heart. You’re being such a blessing to him! Thanks for the tips of having an outfit at the ready & packing a tote for ER visits. You look great! Praying for Mr Mickey & for you.
Susan, I’m so sorry to hear Mr Mickey has been struggling with health issues but I’m happy he’s on the mend now. You seem to be managing things well with being organized and having foresight.
Stay healthy yourself and hang in there. Hugs sent your way
Wishing the best for Mr. Mickey and your folks. Very good advise about what to take to the ER and how to be careful not to bring germs home from the hospital.
Susan, you are a blessing to your loved ones. Your suggestions are very practical and helpful.
I am so sorry to hear about Mickey ‘s health struggles. Sending you both a big hug and well wishes.
Susan,
So sorry to learn of Mr. Mickey’s illness. Sending loads of positive energy to both of you. A couple of suggestions for your go bag. A copy of Medical Power of Attorney and a mask to wear while in the ER.
Great idea about wiping bottom of shoes with disinfecting pads. I always clean my shoes after each wear but will add that extra step of disinfecting after visiting a hospital or doctor’s office.
As always, you look beautiful and elegant, even in a stress situation.
Take good care of yourself. Best wishes to Mr. Mickey for a speedy and complete recovery.
I am in the same situation and your thoughtful tips are much appreciated!
Sending prayers for the both of you
I pray Mr. Mickey will be blessed with good health and you two can continue enjoying life together. You both are such a cute couple.
I’m glad Mr. Mickey is recovering. I understand the difficulty and stress of being a caregiver to those you love so dearly. Sending prayers for you and your loved ones. Please take care of yourself as well. I love all of the tips you give to help us look our best. You always look stunning.
I have experienced similar situations so I can truly appreciate what you are saying. Remember to take care of yourself when you can.
Being a caregiver is a difficult but necessary role many of us have to play at various points in our lives. I hope that all your loved ones have the best possible outcomes and that you find the strength to endure and peace from knowing you did your best for them.
Sending you hopes for strength to care for those you love.
Dear Susan, thinking of you both and sending best wishes. It must be a comfort to Mr Mickey to wake up and see you there looking so stunning. Having a hospital grab bag for yourself and the patient saves a lot of stress when time is critical and you can’t think straight. Also having a little LED torch to navigate your way to the taxi stand or car park at night helps. Look after yourselves. Sending hugs from many time zones away. Gail
I am so sorry to hear about Mr Mickey but glad to hear he is slowly getting better. You sound so well organised for your visits. I hope you are also taking care of yourself as the visits and stress must be taking a toll on you especially as you have also been looking after your parents.
So sorry to hear of Mr. Mickey’s trips to the hospital. Sending prayers for you both as he continues to recover.
You certainly have your hands, heart and mind very full. I can understand to some degree the concern and stress when loved ones are aging and dealing with health issues. I will keep them and you in my prayers. We surely need more prayers. Be kind to yourself.
Susan,
Thanks for your update. Your to go bag is a great idea. Sending prayers to you both as Mr. Mickey continues to recover. Stay warm.
This is one of your best articles ! Practical, thoughtful and helpful for those of us facing similar situations.
Thank you. Nancy from Ontario, Canada
Stressful times, prayers all around for you and yours.
So sorry to hear about Mr Mickey, I wish him a speedy recovery and I will be keeping both of you in my thoughts. Thank you as well for thinking of your readers at this difficult time. I particularly appreciated your tip about packing a bag and suggestions about what to include in it, very sensible and practical. I’d not thought about keeping shoes worn at the hospital separate either, another excellent tip. All the best to both of you Elisabeth.
One hot summer day my sister had to rush her husband to the emergency room. When I got there later, I found her shivering in a tank top in his hospital room. I left her with my denim shirt while I went back to her house to get her some warmer clothes. We laughed about it because she’s always so thoughtful about her outfits but couldn’t think straight in the energy (Brother-in-law is fine now).
Keeping Mr Mickey in prayer.
So happy Mr Mickey is on the mend. You are looking fantastic!
I’m sorry to hear about Mr. Mickey’s health issues. I’ll add him to my prayer list. I hope he’s home soon.
So sorry to hear about what you and Mr. Mickey are going through but it’s a sad fact of life that most of us experience. And all of your suggestions are so appropriate. I was in the emergency room with my husband a few weeks ago and both of our phones died. I’ll be carrying a charging cord from now on.
Glad to read he’s doing better.
So sorry to hear Mr Mickey has been ill. Sending prayers.
Thank you so much for posting this! Everything you say is perfectly on target, as I cared for my Mom for several years and made heaven knows how many trips to the ER with her. I never thought of bringing a book or leaving my shoes in the garage. Wonderful, on-target ideas! This post will make ER trips much better for the many people who read your blog!
May God bless you and your loved ones with love and good health! And thank you for letting us know. I was getting concerned about you!
I have many loved family members in Tennessee and visit there often, so I understand your cold and snow!
Great advice on what to carry to ER. Bomba socks I will look into since I just moved to IN from TN this year….warm is necessary. Love the look…I too turn to jeans, sweaters during these cold days. I’ve found jeans are warmer than joggers… they do not hold warmth. You look marvelous (love your hair this length) and I’ll Mr. M in my prayers. Happy Holidays!
Great list of things to have….a d thrilled. MR. M is doing much better. The only item I would add to your large bag is my KINDLE….
Take care….
Thank you for taking the time to write this column with the wonderful idea of a to go bag. You are appreciated.
Sorry to hear Mr. Micky isn’t well. Hope all goes for the best. Don’t forget to take care of yourself also.
Saying prayers that everyone continues to improve, and your holiday season is merry and bright. I also keep a bag packed and ready, because my Mom (turning 95 in January) lives 1 1/2 hour away. While she is mostly ok, there have been developing medical issues over the last few months. My bag has underwear/pj’s/makeup/hair items and a list of items I would need to pack should I have to leave at a moments notice. I could be ready to go in less than 30 minutes. I’m not being pessimistic, just prepared. Take care..
So sorry to hear that Mr. Mickey has been ill. Wishing him a speedy recovery. Try to take care of yourself too. Thanks so much for the emergency bag info.
Susan you are a wonderful caregiver and help mate. Bless you and all those you care for and keep company. Hope Mr. Mickey is feeling much better and can come home where you will offer more help and companionship. Also hope your parents are well. Glad you found the compression socks. They are good for driving and plane trips too. Much easier on the legs with those on.
Take care of yourself while taking care of others. Good that you bring a book to read.
Patty V
Now with the colder/winter weather settling in, socks are a must. But the question is: should the socks match the pants or the shoes?
You are so busy taking care of your parents and Mr. M, take time for yourself.
Wishing you a very Merry Christmas and a healthy and happy holiday and New Year.
I like to match my socks to my pants; however, it looks lovely when you treat socks that show as accessories. In that case, they can match your top or your jacket. If my socks do not show under boots and pants, I choose my most comfortable and warmest pair, regardless of color.
Prayers to you and Mr. Mickey. I love the idea of an ’emergency’ outfit and bag. The trip is stressful enough without feeling thrown together and disorganized. May you have a peaceful holiday season of wellness!
Thank you for sharing your story. Caring for a loved one in the hospital is stressful your tips are spot on. Wishing you and Mr, Mickey a healthy and relaxing holiday season.
So sorry to hear about Mr Mickey being ill. Hope he continues to recover.
So sorry to hear this news. One step at a time. Best wishes for a speedy recovery and homecoming.
So sorry to hear about Mr. Mickey. I know first hand about those long ER stays and hospital sitting. Take care of yourself.
Thank you for sharing your experience! I am going to follow your lead on this! To be that ready at a moments notice is everything.
Well wishes to you both
You, Mr. Mickey and your parents are in my prayers. Another thing for your bag is a small note pad and pencil. Always handy.
My good wishes are being sent to you as you deal with your loved ones health issues. I admire your cleaning routine – shoes and shorter pants to not drag home hospital germs. I too spent a lot of time in a hospital for my husbands heart transplant in 2010, and every night when I got home I would shower and then use a neti pot. Not sure if this saved me, but I was never sick during or after,
Good luck to you and your loved ones.
Kathy Pisano
This post brought tears to my eyes. My mother has frequent ER visits for falls and I need to drop everything and drive an hour to be there with her. She always notices what I’m wearing! The to go bag is so important. There are few things I can control in these situations but having a ready outfit really helps. I’m a retired physician so my role and what I wear has definitely changed. If I am comfortable and presentable, my mother will also be more at ease. We offer our loved ones our presence and support. Thank you so much for this post
So sorry to hear of your tumultuous few months, but happy to hear Mr. Mickey is on the mend. Merry Christmas to you both.
Caring for a loved one is always stressful so I’ve said a prayer for you and Mr Mickey. BTW I live in Illinois so the first snowfall is always a beautiful reflection of God’s genius.
Susan, I love your posts. Appreciate the time it takes to gather it all together. Hope Mr. M recovers soon. And your parents, too! You are a precious servant as you nurture loved ones! I know you savor all those moments with each of them. Hope you are able to enjoy the beauty of the season through all your days of serving others. God bless you.
Crista Scott-Barbour in Canton, Ga.
So sorry that Mr. Mickey has been sick. A great post as I have been dealing with the ER lately with my husband. A surgery scheduled next week. The tips are great that you shared. I also take a few snacks because you never know when you might eat. Hope everyone is better soon.
Thank you so much for sharing a list of supplies to take with you to the ER/when sitting with someone in the hospital. During these winter months, some of us might be making those trips/visits especially to the ER. I copied that paragraph and printed it off to refer to.
Dear Susan,
I always enjoy your posts and tips. I”m so sorry to hear that Mr Mickey has been ill. Sending prayers and healing energy out for his full recovery.
Please give my regards to Mr. Mickey, hoping for a good recovery, & much needed rest. Hope that you are given strength & stamina, AND rest, too.
We spent Thanksgiving with our oldest son in Johnson City. We had a grand time. We also walked Main Street Jonesborough. Sorry that we didn’t get to experience the snow that JC has now.
Y’all take care & peace be with you!
thank you, Susan for your good tips for emergencies. I have a husband with many procedures, and always have a large tote “survival bag,” but I will add to it with your suggestions!
I wish you and Mr. M a healthy and happy holiday season!
Wishing you the best,
Helen
Good Morning, Susan-
I wanted to send my prayers to Mr. Mickey for a speedy recovery and also to you, as caregivers need our prayers as well. I hope you both have good days ahead. A caregiver arriving with a smile and encouraging words always lifts a patient’s spirit. I know it will be a good day when Mr. Mickey can come home. Blessings to both of you. I’m hoping to hear good news soon!
Judy Rains
Mooresville, NC
As a healthcare worker I appreciate your suggestions. Many times I have gotten blankets and those crazy hospital socks for family members when they’re cold.
How are you managing to eat healthy through all of this ? This is where I struggle , when my routine is shaken up.
I try to get at least one healthy meal per day. Getting up at 3 am helps me achieve a lot before I show up at the hospital.
This is wonderful advice!! Especially having clothes and a tote ready to dash and go. Praying Mr. Mickey has a fast total recovery.
My best wishes for Mr. Mickey’s continued recovery.
Praying for our favorite Mr Mickey. Please extend our best to both of you.
God is so good and we are continuing to pray for him.
God bless you both.
The Mickleys
Susan,
So sorry to hear Mr. Mickey has been ill. Good to hear he is on the mend. Your emergency tips are wonderful. Thank you.
I love the view off your deck. It’s so beautiful in the snow. Best wishes for continued recovery for Mr. Mickey and no more trips to emergency. Happy Holidays my family to yours.
Cristi
Susan,
I’m so glad Mr.Mickey is okay and has a speedy recovery. Preparing to leave the house quickly is very helpful and packing a tote with essentials is brilliant! You are well-organized and stay stylish no matter how stressful the situation.
My best wishes to you and Mr.Mickey.
So sorry Mr. M is unwell. So thankful he has you by his side. As my Michael fought cancer for 3 years. I know the concerns on your heart. After a 40+ year career in Healthcare and exposures of all sorts, I encourage your care with leaving exposure potentials outside the home.
One other suggestion-use a sturdy washable canvas bag for your “supplies”. Wash it each day. Said a prayer.
Praying for you and your family members. I have been the caregiver for several family members. I keep a “Jump Bag” packed. Your list is spot on. I also include a snack, mints, and a reading light that is very helpful for maneuvering around the room when you don’t want to turn on bright lights. (I have this one – Amazon – Glocusent Book Light, 3-Color & 6-Brightness Reading Light, Bendable Neck Light, 80-hr Lasting Rechargeable Lamp).
Absolutely love all your outfits and how well together you always look but unfortunately I live in Florida and just about every outfit you post is meant for colder climates.
Any possibility of posting outfits for VERY warm and humid days (which are about 300 of them out of the year) where every ounce of fabric is uncomfortable on your body but you still would like to look well put together and not always ready for the beach?
Thank you.
Take a look back at my summer looks to get some ideas for your weather. PS, I am jealous!
You sound like a wonderful loving caregiver, I send Mr. Mickey prayers for his continued healing.
I always look forward to your posts. I’m caring for my 92 yr old husband and know well the hospital waiting routine. But I have to say I love your blue and white fish bowls. I have some of the same but am having trouble finding the wooden platform stands. Where did you get one with that height? I would so appreciate knowing. Blessings to you and your loved ones.
My mom gave me that one, but I found some on Amazon here.
Sending love and best wishes to Mr Mickey from England. Hope all is well very soon. Thank you for the hospital visit tips, I would never have thought of the shoes and the germs picked up from floors.
I am praying for his revert and for your strength
What a helpful post! My husband is 80 and fell earlier this year, shattering his hip. I was NOT prepared to follow the ambulance to the hospital. In fact, I had on my pajamas and no makeup – not a pretty sight. I am going to pack a “go bag” with the items you suggested and keep it handy for future emergencies. The only item I would suggest adding is a pair of earbuds, so one can listen to music or podcasts without disturbing the patient. Thank you!
Hi Susan, Wishing you and Mr. Mickey all the best, and glad to hear he’s recovering. You are amazing especially with this post, always being organized and prepared for what life throws at you. Your ideas are so good. My mother lived with us for 10 years before she passed in 2023 at the age of 102. We had several emergency room visits, but never any overnights, luckily. I was never as prepared, and I should have been! I’m going to heed your advice for my husband and me and be ready for anything. We were recently traveling and he woke up with severe shoulder pain. Luckily, all was well and no emergency room visit, but we were on vacation and I certainly wasn’t prepared in any way for that! It might not be a bad idea to have a little bag ready when traveling too!
As usual, in any situation, you look so put together. Put together and practical dressing is the key! Love it! Thanks Susan.
A post many can relate to. When that call for help comes—often out of a sound sleep-one needs to be able to quickly go to the hospital or wherever needed. I learned to have my purse packed with essentials because I might not always be leaving from home— phone charger, phone earbuds, mini-packs of nuts, energy bar, instant coffee packet, water bottle, crossword puzzle, notebook & pen, extra medications for myself in case I didn’t get back home, including headache and GI meds and any sanitary supplies, cash for vending machine or cafeteria. I would keep a book loaded on my phone. If I had time to think I would grab the newspaper and a magazine. I learned to always dress in layers — hospital ERs and waiting areas can be downright cold—wear warm socks, walking shoes, long comfortable pants and a sweater or jacket over your top and a scarf for your shoulders. And if I got cold I learned to ask the staff for a blanket. Most are so extraordinarily kind to family members. If you anticipate the possibility of frequently being transferred to medical facilities away from home, it is helpful to have a suitcase partly ready to go. Putting practical thought into suitable clothing for a time such as this makes things much easier and more comfortable for you. I wish you all well and hope for easier days ahead.
So sorry to hear about Mr. Mickey and happy that he is on the road to recovery. Love your “emergency” suggestions. Great ideas which I will be incorporating. Now, having been a care giver, please take time to care for yourself. We often overlook our own needs when caring for loved ones. Wishing you and yours all the best during this holiday season. And the snow looks lovely! Of course, I’m not having to navigate through it. lol
Courage!
Buenas tardes, Susan. Lamento que tu pareja haya estado tan enfermo y me alegra que ya se esté recuperando. Un abrazo con cariño. Cuídate mucho.
L. Loaiza
So happy to hear that Mr. M is now recovering! Sending him (and you) wishes that it continues apace. I appreciate your hospital tips, and especially the Bombas. Bombas compression socks, who knew? Interesting timing, my husband had just return from a dr appointment about his left foot pain, and the doctor suggested he sleep in compression socks! Ordered. And thanks again. Your posts in my Inbox brighten my day.
Susan,
I always enjoy seeing your emails in my inbox. I’ve learned so much from you regarding style and understanding the styles best for me. So sorry to hear about Mr. Mickey. I pray for health and wellness for him and strength for you.
Sincerely,
Vickie
So sorry to hear Mr Mickie is in the hospital. Sending prayers for healing and comfort to you both. Be sure to take care of yourself!
So very sorry to hear about Mr. Mickey’s health struggles. Glad he’s now on the mend.
Heavenly Father praise for healing Mr. Mickey & for giving Susan strength to care for him & her parents. In Jesus name Amen
So glad that Mr. Mickey is recovering. It is every hard to have someone you love under the weather. Cheers to both of you and wishing you Happy Holidays!
Add snacks and a phone charger to yr hospital bag!
Bless you both, as Mr. Mickey continues to improve. You both delight my heart. ❤️Devon
I’m glad to hear that Mr. M is feeling better. Keeping you and your family in my prayers. As always, you inspire me with your practical tips.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and Mr. Mickey. You two are so lucky to have each other. Don’t forget to take care of yourself dear friend.
I am sorry to hear about Mr. Mickey’s health issues. I am glad to hear he appears to be on the mend. It is hard physically and mentally caring for aging friends and family. Please take good care of yourself.
Prayers for all – patients and caregivers
I’m sure I’m preaching to the choir Susan, but please make sure to take care of yourself as you care for your loved ones.
I’m praying for Mr. Mickey and you. You’ve seen to it that he got the best medical care when he needed it, and his recovery will be largely due to your loving efforts.
The truly amazing thing about you is that no matter how much stress life throws at you, you are never diminished=-not your beauty, your smile, nor your style.
Who in the world could wear that hat and coat with such panache as you, Susan? No one! I like your hairstyle with it, quite chic.
Thanks also for all the reminders and tips about what to have with us under these circumstances.
All best wishes to Mr. Mickey, and to you. xoxo
Thank you, Rebecca.
What is a “forever sweater”? Sounds like a great item to have. Thank you.
That’s the name of the sweater I linked to in this post and several others. There is a version with a V-neck and another with a crew neckline. I have several in my best colors. They are thin but warm and do not add bulk so you can layer over them if you want.
My elderly mom has lived with my husband and I for 8 years. The health issues can definitely be stressful at times. Prayers sent to Mr Mickey and you as well because caregivers need prayers too. Are the compression socks you linked easy to get off and on? I’ve never found any my mom can get on.
Gather the sock up in your hands, slip your toe in and pull them up by sections they way you would panty hose.
Hope Mr. Mickey recovers and keep well.
Wishing Mr Mickey and you all the best. I am so sorry to hear Mr Mickey has been so ill. PS. You look fantastic in these photos Susan. I especially love your hat.
Glad Mr Mickey is feeling better!
Praying for you and your loved ones to wrapped on God’s love and continue to heal or stay healthy.
Brilliant advice, Susan! After having gone through a similar experience with my own husband, this information is spot on. Best wishes to Mr. M. for a speedy recovery.
Dear Susan,
Oh my goodness I was so surprised to hear about Mr.
Mickey. Knowing you, you are the best loving caring care giver. It’s not easy what you do Susan. I hope you are taking care of yourself.
You always look great, but it’s not always how good you look on the outside.
Happy to hear Mr. Mickey is on the mend.
Take TLC of yourselves.
I hope all three of your loves enjoy this season, and you as well. it can be exhausting to take care of others, so please take care of yourself.
Do you have a recommendation for crew socks or high calf socks for jeans that are thin, but will not fall down??
I bought these and they stay up, are comfortable and also thin. The downside is they are delicate. You almost have to hand wash them to keep them looking fresh. I recommend using a laundry bag when you wash them with other clothes in your machine.
I feel you girl. I’ve spent a lot of hours in the hospital with loved ones too and your tips are spot on. Thank you.
You should add hand sanitizer, face masks and a water bottle to your list. This time of year respiratory illnesses are prevalent, and the elderly need to be overly cautious.
Hooe your beloved one comes back home healthy soon. Maybe a tablet( or i- pad) weighs less than a book and you can download books and use it for teading( and playing)
Great post, especially for those of us who are older and even those who are younger!! Thank you!
I hope Mr. M is continuing to recover. I look forward to seeing him up and out with you again sharing his great sock collection with us! I want to thank you again for turning me on to the forever sweaters. I have one v-neck and one crew neck. I’m considering getting another one or two to gift myself as they are a great weight. I just want to ask, do you hand wash them in a sink or do you use the hand wash cycle on your washing machine? I’m hoping to get a lot of use out of them for a few years and I know you are good at making clothing last so I thought I’d ask.
Sending a prayer for Mr. Mickey’s continued recovery…
I put mine in the machine on the delicate cycle, in cold water, and then lay them on a flat surface to air dry.
Best wishes to Mr. Mickey to get well soon. And best wishes to you – thanks for all you do!
Hello Susan…….. sitting in ER’s can be traumatic. You were well supplied with all the necessities. I hope Mr. Mickey is feeling better.
Loved the last picture you sent of the snow. That’s what the lower part of Michigan looks like……..the upper not so much they have a lot of
snow to shovel.
Enjoy your holidays ! Karen Z.
Can you tell me what nail polish you use now. I loved Baby Take A Vow by OPI, but can no longer find it. Thanks.
I give my nails a vacation from polish in the winter and never wear polish on my fingernails.
That’s rough. I’ve been there, done that. Take care of yourself!
WISHING MR MICKY A VERY SPEEDY RECOVERY. PRAYERS TO HIM AND YOU.
How lovely to take care of your family and friends during their time of need. May you be richly blessed.
I’m very happy to know Mr Mickey is feeling much better. I’m also sorry he’s been ill which takes a toll on him as well as you. Cancer and aging take strength of which you are no doubt his biggest provider. I will keep you both in my thoughts and prayers. Take care of yourself as well.
Nancy, a big fan of yours
May our loving God strengthen you, Mr. Micky and all who need it.
Susan, I’m sorry to hear that your dear Mr. Mickey has been ill but so happy to hear he is now recovering.
I’m sending very warm Merry Christmas greetings to both of you. Thank you so much for your styling tips. I receive compliments all the time on my style and it’s all because of your tips for classic, solid color, interchangeable pieces. I’m 81 but will always care about looking my best because it has a direct influence in how I feel.
Blessings to you, Mr Mickey and your parents,
Leandra Maddock
Mission Viejo, CA
Susan as always your posts are full of great tips. While my heart goes out to you for the ER trips you’ve endured, you have turned challenges into blessings. Thank you for the tips after visiting the hospital (really that could be said for anywher) to leave shoes in garage and clean soles, wear shorter pant hem lines, and (why didn’t I think of this1?1?) keep a to-go outfit at the ready. My your holidays be joyful and healthy moving forward.
Cherl
Susan, I’ve been spending a lot of time in the ER as well with a sick parent. It has to be the most uncomfortable place on earth. The airport coming in a close second. I keep a packed tote bag in the truck of the car for this reason. It has a change of clothes, a phone/iPad charger, moisturizer for my face and hands, baby wipes, socks, and of all crazy things a roll of toilet paper. Hospital tp is notoriously cheap and rough. Every time I pull it out, a nurse will comment that I must spend a lot of time at the hospital. Only the “pros” bring their own toilet paper.
I am so sorry to hear about Mr. Mickey, and happy to hear he is recovering from all that! Prayers for you both.
My sister broke her hip and I have spent many hours at the hospital as well this past week. I am surprised we didn’t run into each other. She is recovering and will hopefully be discharged to rehab today!
I hope things go well for your sister. She must be so grateful for your help.
Wishing all the best for you and Mr Mickey.
I will be praying for you and Mr. Mickey.
Glad to hear that Mr Mickey is doing better. You always look so polished and your emergency outfits are no exceptions. Thank you for your inspiration and for continuing to share it even in trying times.
I have missed your posts…wishing you all good health!
What a lot you have been having to deal with and what worries for you. I am glad to hear Mr Mickey is finally improving. My thoughts and prayers are with you both during these challenging times
Thankful for caregivers. Prayers for all.
I’m sorry that several of your loved ones are dealing with health problems. I helped with my mother and now with my siblings. Your suggestions are very helpful. I hope Mr Mickey is better soon and that the others have many good days.
I follow you regularly on FB. I absolutely love your styling tips, clothes ideas for appropriate age, and all other fun adventures, but please cut your beautiful white hair shorter! If you want a Bob cut it shorter! You are a beautiful woman with a beautiful smile!!
I have not posted on FB for years. I like my hair the way it is. Thank you.
Dear Susan! I can relate to what you’ve been going through with caring for your husband. Mine had 3 back surgeries, all within a 2 month time period in 2023. I spent more time in my car, Dr offices, and hospitals than I can count. But like you, I kept an outfit at the ready throw on at a moments notice (one emergency surgery gave me 20 minutes to get him dressed and to the hospital ) and I kept a large tote bag well stocked, too. It was a stressful time, but not as much as if I had not prepared myself for the long hours spent during surgeries or afterward in the hospital. It really did help that I felt put together and I could be of more assistance to him if I didn’t have to worry that I looked a mess. Im so glad that your husband is doing well and I hope he continues to heal.
Thank you for generously sharing your life with us!
Mr. Mickey has been my adventure partner for almost two decades. However, we are not married.