Do you ever judge a book by its cover? More than one woman has left me a comment similar to the following. “What could you possibly know about our everyday lives and struggles? You in your fancy house and clothes, going out to dinner and the symphony; you have nothing in common with me.”
A few years ago, I needed to lose 75 pounds because my health was being very negatively affected. When I started trying to lose weight, I was so self-conscious that I would walk to the end of my block and back, over and over again at night under the street lights. Even after working two full-time jobs for more than ten years, I became homeless in my early forties after a heartbreaking divorce. I spent the next seven years working non-stop to rebuild a very different, independent life.
When I tell you I learned my life lessons the hard way, it is true. What I share with you here and in my talks would be considered too much private information made public for most people. However, if I fail to share my journey and struggles, I will not be able to encourage the woman who is going through the same thing and believes there is no hope.
We were indeed on our way to dinner and then the symphony performance when these photos were snapped. The Travelers pants from Chico’s are at least eleven years old. The Ralph Lauren tuxedo style jacket with satin lapels is from Dillard’s last year. The top is this one by Covered Perfectly. The short French Connection boots are from last year. The necklace is by French Kande. The other jewelry and the clutch are just random no-name objects I have picked up in my travels over the years. I do not usually wear earrings with a necklace, but these are just enough to cover the holes in my lobes. Now that my hair is shorter, I am wearing more small earrings for that purpose. The Versace scarf is from a few years ago. Note that I wore gold earrings with silver jewelry and used the scarf with silver, gold, gray, and black tones to pull the look together.